Mickey
Mouse Pancakes
The sun sprayed voluminous rays on the backyard
where I
paced in a sleepless walk among autumn leaves;
Your six-year-old daughter was under covers on her
bed; wide
awake, she screamed in her room that
time we made love in yours. “I have to take care of her,”
you said,
and I responded, “yes, you should,” but thought,
“what about me?” That summer, I mowed, trimmed and pruned
the grass
and bushes, prompting a neighbor to tell me
“you’re good for her.” Before I arrived, the dried-up
yard was
spotted with weeds and dirt, and nothing
flowered of any color. I transported truck
loads of
debris from the backyard to the city dump,
teeming with flies and seagulls; I patched the leaky roof
and re-painted
the house. When your daughter got sick
for days with chicken pox boils on her skin—she laid
down on
the floor rug and wailed—I took care of her
while you worked, all the time watching you learn to hate me.
My own
two kids visited on weekends, and you
seemed to close down, unable to cull forth a warm tone,
to say,
“maybe your kids are important, too.”
I hated this feeling—that everything was up for
negotiation
and one’s children were bargaining chips.
I hated this sense that I could never belong here.
Regardless
of how much I made this house into
a home, it would never be home for me. Sometime later,
after we
broke up in a tearful fit, arguing
over whom did what, and what belonged to whom,
after months
of the most barren of nights, I asked
my children what they remembered about you.
They recollected
the way you made them Mickey Mouse
pancakes, with batter carefully placed on a heated pan,
and how
butter and syrup slid off the browned ears;
they recalled the stories you told and trips to the park.
I couldn’t
remember any of this. What came
to mind was you leaving our bed, turning away
from me,
and your way of hurting by not responding;
how much I wanted you to just linger in my arms,
to know
that I cried without crying, and that losing
you was releasing a vital part of myself.
My kids
reminisced about pancakes, hide-and-seek
games and the constant bickering with your daughter.
I only
recalled your back to me once too often.